A Summary of Max Schulman's "Love Is a Fallacy"".

He was a freshman law student who is totally intelligent, keen, wise and clever. He is really proud of himself that he chooses what type of people he will be encountering. He chooses well the girl he will be marrying. Love between him and his wife doesn’t matter to him. Ha want an elegant and presentable girl. A girl who is somewhat like beautiful, at least has right proportion of the body and who is neat and clean is what he hopes for. But the most important aspect he wants is intelligence. He saw most of these standards to Polly. Polly is neat and clean. This girl is beautiful and has guts. She is not that sexy but has already the “ready for development” feature. She is gracious because she eats clean and neat. She stood like a real lady. But she is not intelligent. Although he likes girl who is compatible for a lawyer like he will be, and a girl who can take care of his children, he chooses Polly. According to him, it is better to change a beautiful but dumb girl into a smart one than to turn an ugly smart girl into a beautiful one. For Polly’s situation, it is easy for him to make Polly as intelligent as he is. But Polly is tied to other guy. That guy is his roommate in the university he is studying. His name is Petey. Petey, as what he describes, is a dumb and jitterbug. Even though they have the sane background, Petey is pretty different compared to him. Petey is quite emotional especially when he is searching for a raccoon coat he will be using for the swim. He couldn’t find one so he asked him. The said law student remembered that his dad had this kind of coat. After the conversation, he went to his dad and got the coat. He then came back to the university. He offered the coat to Petey but in one condition, Petey would let him date with Polly. Petey is aware that he and Polly are not lovers. He thinks of the deal wisely, until he realized to deal with him. He then has a date with Polly. He knows that Polly has no intellectual capabilities so he met with her and teach her some information particularly logic. Within 5 days, he taught Polly to be wise and clever when it comes to giving statements and concluding. After 5 days of teaching Polly, he then tested Poll’s brain if she really had learned. He made it somewhat like realistic to be able to determine Poll’s capabilities. At that that particular day, he was amazed by hearing the answers of Polly to her but there was a problem. Polly is taking it seriously and literally. Even though that he means of something else, Polly is considering it as a test. He wants to be with Polly, but Polly wants to be with Petey. He asked her why she chose Petey when he is so brilliant compared to Petey. Then Polly answered it by saying that Petey had a raccoon coat.

Violent Reaction?

As a girl or maybe a lady, I will never be fallen in love with that man in the story. He is arrogant and very proud of himself. He only thinks of is intelligence. In short, he is emotionless. He doesn’t care about his feelings and as well as the feelings of others. He just thinks of himself. He even insults one’s imperfectness. He thinks of himself as a perfect and that no one could stop him or refuse him. Imagine, he doesn’t care about what he feels towards Polly. In fact, he doesn’t really feel anything.

If he will be compared to the present type of guys of these days, he will really be called as “manhid” or a “manggagamit”. And I hate that kind of guys. I really hate them all. and if someone would dare court me, I will really vomit a pail of food from my mouth.

There are really guys who are like that. It’s true that we can’t control their attitudes. Maybe they have these weird principles of life. Da… what the hell I care about those principles of theirs! They only think of their good future. They don’t think of what will happen if they will be married to a woman whom they do not love. Some do these because of business. If you are a famous businessman, you will not dare to marry a girl who doesn’t even have her own house. Of course you will search for a good one. It could be as wealthy as you are or someone that had made a great name in a country like politicians. Some also marry women whom they don’t love because of arranged marriage. Is it still popular these days? Maybe they are still. We have to consider that not the parents are the ones who will suffer in the end but the children. So if I was the parent, I will let my children marry the people they loved.

Maybe I’m not at the right time to say these all to you. Maybe I don’t really understand the situation of the world. But I can always be sure that I will not marry the person whom I don’t love. I don’t care of the hindrances because I know how to think well and to choose the right one for me. And of that assurances, I am confident that I will be choosing the man who is right for me both by financial, by family’s approval and by emotional.

Another reaction that I want to elaborate is the comparing. Like what the man said in the story, he is right for Polly because he is brilliant and wealthy. But the features seen outside are not that very important. Maybe they are important for some reasons but the ones inside are more important, the attitude, the feelings and the sincerity of a person. I know exactly that people nowadays are looking forward to attractive and well-looking people whom they will love. Unlike before that people didn’t care about their physical features, they thought if their feelings. But… we must not forget that heart can never rule the brain. It is always the brain that says to the heart the right emotion to feel. So don’t be fooled by your emotions because it also means that you are not using your head.

On Being Taught by Students.

“Good morning, ms. Ouano”, that’s the exact sentence I remembered when I was a student teacher during the KYSD. I felt appreciated by those words. And maybe it was one of the encouragements I received from the students I had discussed or visited. If I felt appreciated and respected, I assume that all the other student teachers were feeling the same way too.

It was very different between standing in front of the students discussing and sitting on the armchair listening. Discussing needs a lot of energy so that your voice would be very clear and loud, your lesson would be discussed well, and so that you will not appear as boring to the students you are teaching. While being a student, you also need a lot of energy so that you would not sleep while the discussion is going on. You must be active so that you can catch up the important concepts of the lesson. Both situation are similar yet different.

I’ve experienced teaching and being taught. But the one in KYSD was strange because we were taught by our own classmates and schoolmates. Honestly, I didn’t listen to all the student teachers because some didn’t master the lessons assigned to them. Some even made mistakes in teaching us. But it was also good because they’ve tried their best (that includes me!). I felt comfortable because they were just my classmates and I know that we already had made a friendship made between all of us. I never wish that I would be the best student teacher but instead, wishing that one of them would become the best student teacher.

If we had something learned from them, it means that they’ve done their job well. That’s the most important thing to be accomplished when you are a teacher. It is not about how good you are to tell jokes or how to entertain them which are also good factors.

If I was proud of myself, then of course I was proud of all the student teachers. I must assure them that they were really unique individuals because at their young age, they’ve done a job that originally suites for adults or to people older than they are. They were really like real teachers because despite that we are classmates; they showed no favoritism to any of us. They were fair and no bias. They showed humility despite of the respect they’ve got. They showed no much pride to their selves. But they showed good examples that everybody is expected to follow and remember. It would not matter if they committed mistakes as long as they admitted their mistakes. What really matter are their spirit and their passion towards teaching. Their hard works in preparing made a great role in their success. Although they were some misunderstandings, they made it to the top and raised the flag of satisfaction and success.

As a student, I realize how hard it is to be teacher when the students are not listening. So I suggest to those students who sleep during the time of discussion, better try to be a teacher even once and let’s see what will be your reaction if you will see your students sleeping. What a shame on those students who insult their teachers! I don’t like students who drop the graces from their hands and those who throw their garbage of mistakes without recycling to be able to learn from those mistakes. Guys… if I were you, I will be very good to my teachers so that they will feel happy and that I will also learn. Bye………………… Thank you…………………

The difference between like and love.

I like Gener’s height but it doesn’t mean I love him. I like James’ hair but it doesn’t mean I love him. I like Essem’s nose nut id doesn’t mean I love him. I like Aiden’s eyes but it doesn’t mean I love him. I like all of my classmates but it doesn’t mean I love them all. Girls, be careful when a guy tells you that he likes you. And also boys, please be careful when we say we like you because it’s so hard to expect love from someone who don’t love you that much.

I was once a victim of like and love case. I also had victimized someone of like and love case. Let’s talk first of the someone I had victimized…

Gener (not Gener Neil Aviso) was my classmate when I was grade 3. Someone asked me if I like him, so I said yes. Because of that, he expected that I also loved him. He told me his feelings and he was not happy when I told mine.

Let’s talk about me as a victim.

This time, it’s different. I have a crush before named Dave (not his real name). He told me that he liked me. Instead of being happy, I was sad because I know that like is very different from love. I stopped loving him because I don’t want to expect. But I was wrong. Like developed into love and I never knew that he loved me by the time when I loved him. Now, I’m trying to bring back the feeling I felt for him before. It’s doing well. I hope that when the time that I am ready to face him, he still loves me.

ometimes, you like a person and later on love him/her. There are also times that you love a person but not liking him/her? Why are these happening? It is true that when you love a person, you don’t need to like him/her first?

Maybe it’s true because I don’t like my present crush because he’s hotheaded. But why do I love him? Why do I want to see him always?

Again and again, like in dictionary means to be pleased with. Like is a sweet word to hear. You feel appreciated when someone says he/she likes you. Like is sometimes associated with love. But love is seldom associated with like.

The differences between like and love according to thesecategories:

rDictionary meaning
it’s so obvious that like means admiration while love means strong affection. And they also have different spellings, right?

rEmotional matters
like means admiring something or someone. You can always love what you like but you can only seldom like what you love.

Hey, people!! Don’t be fooled by people when they said they like you because it differs from liking and loving things. When you like this particular stuff, you also love it. But if you like a person, it doesn’t mean you love that person. See? Words really have different meanings according to where they are implied. They also differ from how you say it. Things and people are really different.

You can’t sacrifice everything for the person you like but you can really sacrifice everything for the person you love. You will not cry very hard when you loose the one you like but I’m sure that you will shed a pail of tears when you loose the one you love. You’ll not feel jealous when you see someone close to the one you like but you will feel jealous to the person close to the one you love.

Although liking and loving are different, don’t lose hope! The person likes you might love you as well in the near future. But don’t ever expect if you don’t want to suffer and to be hurt at the end. Liking and loving are also similar for they both cherish the said people. Remember, don’t be victimized when they say they like you because at the end of the day, they will surely choose the person they love.

What will you choose?

“Oh my God! It’s so difficult. Do I really have to choose?” that’s one of our reactions when we are about to make decisions. Decisions are important. They are the basis of our tomorrow’s happenings. So whatever we are facing today, is the result of the decision we made yesterday. What if you regret after making a decision? Is it going to be too late to change the decision you have made? How about the person you love? Will you give up everything for him/her?

Here comes Danny. Danny’s parents separated. As a matter of fact he has a brother but is no longer w/ him. He is living w/ her mother while his older brother is living w/ their father. He was just 6 months young and his brother was 1 year young when their parents separated. He was supposedly living together w/ his brother but his father’s parents took his brother away from him.


18 years gone by. He does not think about his father and never did. He doesn’t even know his father’s name or address. All he thinks about is his beloved mother who brought him up well. Danny loved a girl named Carla. She was his first love. He was just 11 when he met Carla. Carla, on the other side, is a loving daughter. She loves her family so much. She does everything for her family and that’s why she doesn’t accept any suitors. Danny is aware that Carla doesn’t love him. But despite that , he still continued loving Carla. Danny knew Carla’s love. It was Dexter. Dexter is rich, handsome and tall. But those characteristics are nothing for Carla. Carla loved him because he was not boastful of what he has and that he is always good to Carla.

Dexter and Carla are always together. Danny felt jealous because he loved Carla so much. One day, he knew that Dexter proposed to Carla. He felt depressed because Carla isn’t supposed to accept any suitor as she told him. He planned something to take Carla away from Dexter. As Danny started doing his plan, Carla talked to him. She said, “Hey, Danny. What’s happening to you? You’re not the Danny I knew before! Is there any problem? “ No I don’t really have any problem. My problem is you. You have changed, Carla. You said you don’t love me because you don’t want to love anybody at this time. But why did you let Dexter propose to you? You know what, you’re so unfair! Carla answered. “ Hey what’s the problem with me?! Did I do something wrong? You already know that I don’t want to love. I didn’t allow Dexter to court me but he never listened and you that I can’t control anybody. It just happened that way. I’m sorry. I mean, you don’t care about what’s happening to me: You are just a suitor, not my boyfriend, “ Carla shouted.

Upon hearing the reply of Carla, Danny cried for the first time. He never expected that Carla would talk like that. And because of what Carla said, Danny became more aggressive. He continued on his plan, He met his friends. They planned to invite Carla into a party and invite Dexter into a basketball tournament. They did it that way to prevent them from being together. Danny was with Carla and Dexter was together with Danny’s friends. When Danny’s friends and Dexter came to the sports complex, they got him to a room and punch him on the different parts of his body. While Carla was with Danny, somebody called Danny, his mother. “Danny, I’ve found your father”, his mother said. “What?! Really?! Where is he? Where is brother?”, said Danny excitedly. “You’re brother watched a basketball tournament”, his mother answered. “what’s his name? I want to see him”, Danny asked. “just go with me to the complex”, his mother replied.

Danny, Carla and Danny’s mother went to the complex not knowing the scenery they will be seeing. When they arrived, people were gathered in a corner. Somebody was lying on the floor. Then Danny’s mother shouted, “who did this to your brother?!” then suddenly, a tear fell from his eye. The man lying on the floor, the man whom he hated so much, the man who took Carla, and the man who was attacked by his friend is his BROTHER! But it already happened. If Danny would tell the truth, Dexter would commit justice, as well as his parents, and Danny would not be with Carla anymore. But if he would choose to be with Carla, his brother’s case would be left unsolved. What would he choose? You, what would you choose, the person you love or the person you have been longing before?

I dreamed of him…

It was a Thursday night full of sadness and tears. I hurriedly went to the bed and let my tired head rest on my favorite pillow. I just let the words of my mother passed from my left ear to the other ear. I didn’t eat. My mom scolded me and gave me millions of moral words, but I ignored. I stood from the bed and dressed like a princess. Not a princess in physical features but like a princess not doing anything. I slept ahead of time while my mother was not yet finished with her millions of words, “Hey, where are you going? You’ll not eat? It’s already 7:00. Why are you late? Was there an activity in school? Hey!”. When she opened the door of the room, I was already asleep I think. About a few hours after, I opened my eyes and saw nothing but black. Then I remembered that I was alone in the room without any glimpse of light. Then I heard of a voice saying, “Hey, eat here! It’s already 10:00”, my father said. “Don’t let her eat! Let her sleep the whole night without any food in her stomach. I’ve called her many times but she didn’t eat. Let hear learn a lesson”, my mom shouted. Though I felt hungry, I didn’t go to the kitchen because I know that there would be another millions of moral words waiting for me. I just close my eyes again…



Then I dreamed that I was in a room together with a guy I used to know. I didn’t recognize him that easily. And in my dream, I also had another dream…



We were in a wonderland full of flowers and medium-sized fruit-bearing trees. Fragrance was all around the place. We were wearing all white. At that moment, I already saw his face and embraced him as if that I know who he really was. We walked together and stroll at the place. We were alone at that place until there were birds coming to us and were singing a song that was very familiar to me. Then we arrived at a point where there was a river. The sound of the flowing river was very fascinating. Until we reach into the falls. It was so long that you hardly could look the most top end of it. But when we go around the wonderland, I feel into the ground when I stepped on a stone. When I woke up, I went back to my first dream, remember? I was still with him. In my first dream, I was unconscious before I woke up. And… that guy saved me. And do you know who was that mysterious man I’m talking about? He’s Oishi! Do you still remember Oishi? When you read my entry entitled “Special Friendship”, he was the man on that story.



It is almost 2 years since we separated after the graduation. As I’ve heard, he is presently studying at CIT. I still remember him and the memories we had. But honestly, I don’t remember the feeling anymore, maybe because he is away from me and maybe the love I felt before for him was not developed. But I really appreciate the dream about the wonderland. And I am happy that even once in my life, I dreamed of him…

How dare you say that?!

I’ve been studying high school in UP for almost 2 years already. And those years had already become memorable to me. I’ve met many challenges in everyday life and different problems encountered. I made many mistakes and I’ve done many successes. But one thing sure is I’ve done my best and I did what I have to do.



Almost all of my sacrifices resulted to something good. I am a consistent honor student until now and I’m happy about it. But I wonder why, why people expect too much from me, especially my family. It’s like they think that I’m a genius or something? It’s like that I know everything and I can do everything. All of these things made me afraid to commit mistakes.



Whenever I made a mistake, people would say, “You’re intelligent, right? Then why didn’t you use your head?”. How dare they say that? They don’t know what I’ve done. They don’t know how many miles of problems I’ve crossed. They don’t know about what I feel. Sometimes the would say, “I thought you are smart, but why don’t you understand what I told you?”



When a person is smart, it doesn’t mean that he/she is perfect. Let’s consider my situation. Let’s just say that I am smart or somewhat like intelligent. I may be the most intelligent student in the school but it doesn’t mean that I can do everything that the people want me to do. It rally would not mean that I am forbidden to make mistakes. I can’t give you all what you expect from me. All I can do is to show what I got and what I can only do. And they don’t have the right to tell me who I really am just to show a reason why I should not commit mistakes.



You know what? It’s so painful for my part. I have so many sacrifices and yet this is what they will do to me. It’s so hard to be patient when you know that your feelings are being hurt. It’s hard to hide these feelings especially when these kinds of happenings are happening almost everyday.



Another thing involved here is my school. Why do they have to include my school in the issue? It’s nothing. It doesn’t mean that if I’m like this, it is because of the teachings of the schools. I know that UP students are intelligent and are expressive about their feelings but they really don’t have any right to use my school as a reason of my imperfectness. It is so disappointing when you knew that the people around you think that you are like this, when you know that you are not. It’s like they are having wrong impressions.



I just hope that they will change. I hope that they can also realize what I feel. I know they have conscience so they might as well feel bad of what they have done. I hope that this article would inspire others who have the same situation as I have. Don’t worry guys! We may not be the most perfect student or child in the world for them, but we can always be the best person in the whole world by being true to ourselves and being who we really are…